It does not work. I realize that now. Today I found a post that is helping me find the courage to hope again. It made me realize two things. I will be a mother some day and giving up on hope will not make the pain of disappointment any less.
My life is measured in months and cycle days now. When a new cycle begins, I know the previous one has failed and it is okay to grieve. But that does not mean I should abandon hope for the next cycle. I might as well be happy now in the thought that despite the odds I could be pregnant. Despairing now will not save me grief but only add to it. So I choose to ignore the statistics and look at in a new way. Either I am pregnant or I am not. I will tell myself it's 50/50.
What I have always wanted most in life is to be a mother. That will never change. It is who I am. Long before I met my husband, I did was not sure if I would ever find the right guy for me. So I had a back up plan. If I never found a husband, I would adopt and I would still be a mother. Right now, we are not in a position financially to adopt or even afford IVF. However, we are taking steps to improve our finances. It might take some time, but whether I give birth to a child or give a child a home, I will be a mom some day.